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The articles have been grouped by topics for ease of browsing. More topics will be added as the site continues to grow. The categories currently available are:

Body Modification/Marking
Breath Control
Christians and BDSM
Communication
Contracts
Definitions/Terminology
Edge Play
Finding A Partner
Gorean Master/slave
Implements/Toys
Learning The Lifestyle
Legal Issues
Limits
Negotiation
Online To Real Life
Philosophy Issues
Punishment and Discipline
Relationships
Realities of BDSM
Safety and Health
Sex & Sexuality
Sexual Orientation
Symbols In BDSM (incl. Collars and Rituals)
Types Of Play (includes Fetishes, pain play etc.)
Why BDSM

BDSM Realities

• BDSM For Those With Disabilities: Raven Shadowborne *
• Reality Check: J. Mikael Togneri (updated 5/17/2003)
• Take A Dip In The Reality Pool: Screamer 
• To Thine Own Self Be True: boo{SL} *
• Change: Justin Medlin
• Fantasy vs. Reality: Justin Medlin *
• Is It Real Or Is It Bullshit?: Justin Medlin *
• A Fragile Balance: Reality, Fantasy and SM: Bob Harris *
• As Reality Sets In: Bob Harris *
• A Fragile Balance: Too Much Of A Good Thing: Bob Harris *
• The Three R's Of BDSM: Bob Harris *
• Reality Check: Knyghtflyher *
• Separating Fact From Fiction: Miss Kat
• Leather Ethics: Civilti & Incivility In The Scene: ChrisM *
• Slavese And Other Crap: Jack Rinella *
• Absolute Lifestyle D/s: J. Mikael Togneri *
• In His Interest: J. Mikael Togneri *
• Who's In Charge?: MstrCerebus *
• Going Deep: Topspace, Bottomspace, and Sado-erotic Ecstacy: Chris M * (10 pages linked together)
• Mythic Reality: Building The Inner Cathedral: Chris M (Part Four of Going Deep)
• The Power Of A Slogan: Screamer * (Essay re: Power Exchange)
• BDSM According To Nala: Nala *
• BDSM and a Vanilla Partner: Nala *
• Ms Siren and boy john's Collaring Ceremony: Ms Siren * (real life)
• Meeting Someone Else Into BDSM: Ambrosio *
• Surrendering the Safeword: yielding *
• BDSM Meets The Media In Victoria, British Columbia: Lady Fish
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: Power Exchange: Dragon~Lord *
• A Beginner's Guide To Munches: Stu *
• What is Fetishism?: Mistress Michelle *
• Authority, Honesty and D/s: Lord Saber
• Pain For Pleasure: A Learning Experience: Fire-Soul *
• Help, My Partner Has A Fetish: 3xL *

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Body Modification & Marking

• Why Piercings?: Raven Shadowborne
• Permanent Piercings: Raven Shadowborne
• My Piercing Experience: Raven Shadowborne
• What is body piercing? What is "C&B" play, or "genitorture"?: Johnson Gray *
• Shaving: Jenne *

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Breath Control

• Introduction To Breath Control Essays By Jay Wiseman: Jay Wiseman
• Medical Realities Of Breath Control: Jay Wiseman *
• Breath Control: Is Epinephrine The Smoking Gun?: Jay Wiseman
• Breath Control: More On The Smoking Gun :Jay Wiseman
• Breath Control: I Want My Precaution B!: Jay Wiseman
• Cumulative Brain Damage From Breath Control?: Jay Wiseman *

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Christians and BDSM

• Christians and BDSM Q & A: Sir Gardener

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Communication

• What Is Communication? : Raven Shadowborne
• Eight Techniques For Maintaining Trust and Communication During A Scene: Chris M
• Leather Ethics: Civility & Incivility In The Scene: ChrisM (4 pages) *
• 18 Rules For Effective Fighting: Dr. Robert W. Birch PhD
• 22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship: Dr. Robert W. Birch PhD *
• Effective Communications: The Basis for a Successful Relationship: missyinchains
• Communication: Nala
• From A Dom's Perspective: Rapport: Dragon~Lord
• Consent With Awareness: Master Eso *
• An Esoteric View: Civility and Incivility In The Scene: Master Eso *

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Contracts

• Contracts: Raven Shadowborne *
• Sample Contract #1: Unknown
• Sample Contract #2: Unkown
• Slave Contract (sample contract #3): Don Rogers

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Definitions/Terminology

• What is D/s: Raven Shadowborne *
• Safe, Sane Consensual: Raven Shadowborne *
• Terms Of The Lifestyle: Raven Shadowborne
• Power Exchange: Raven Shadowborne
• SSC In Absolute Mastery/Enslavement: louise
• What Is A Lifestyle: Raven Shadowborne
• What Is The BDSM Lifestyle: Raven Shadowborne
• Sadomasochism: Raven Shadowborne
• Sm Is... : Screamer 
• What Are Red Flags?: Raven Shadowborne *
• What do B&D, S&M, D&S, "top", "bottom" mean: Johnson Gray
• What Is A Scene and What Is Negotiation?: Johnson Gray *
• SSC vs. RACK: Justin Medlin *
• RACK, SSC, Safewords And Other Interesting Topics: Knyghtflyher
• Working Responsibly: A Discussion Of SSC: Chris M
• What is Domination/Submission?: Zenwstick
• Absolute Lifestyle D/s: J. Mikael Togneri *
• Who's In Charge?: MstrCerebus *
• TPE: Total Power Exchange: Ashtarot *
• Screamer Rant: Real and True and Their Misplacement In BDSM: Screamer *
• The Power Of A Slogan: Screamer * (Essay re: Power Exchange)
• Origin Of RACK; RACK vs SSC: Gary Switch *
• What is Fetishism?: Mistress Michelle *
• Consent With Awareness: Master Eso *

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Edge Play

• Consensual Rape Fantasies: Raven Shadowborne
• Edge Play 1: Extremis
• Edge Play To Me 2: Raven Shadowborne
• Play Piercings (Needle Play) : Raven Shadowborne
• Play Peircing 2: Sue Abel
• Knives: Knyghtflyher *
• Needle Play 101: Elianne *
• Playing With Blood: Rose Vergara *
• Electricity Play: Lord Saber *
• My Cutting Isn't Scarring Enough!: Dr. Beth Brown *

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Finding A Partner

• Finding Your Dominant: Mistress Steel
• Finding A Partner In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Play Partners: Raven Shadowborne *
• Is It Real Or Is It Bullshit?: Justin Medlin *
• To Catch A Dom: Bob Harris *
• Seeking Partners: Jack Rinella
• BDSM and a Vanilla Partner: Nala *
• Meeting Someone Else Into BDSM: Ambrosio *
• Some Notes On Safety For Meeting Online and Off: Ambrosio *
• A Dom's Perspective: Attraction: Dragon~Lord
• Choosing A Mistress: Mistress Michelle *
• Consent With Awareness: Master Eso *
• The Process Of Selection: Master Eso *

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Gorean master/slave

• Insight Into The Gorean Lifestyle: Michael
• Pain For Pleasure: A Learning Experience: Fire-Soul *

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Implements/Toys

• Types Of Play I: Floggers: Raven Shadowborne *
• Type Of Play 2: Paddles, Crops, and Straps: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play III: Spanking: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play 4: Ointments, Oils, Jellies: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play V: Clamps: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play VI: Plugs, Dildos, & Vibrators: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play 7: Wax Play Tips: Raven Shadowborne *
• Caring for Your Leather Items: Raven Shadowborne *
• Inexpensive Ways To Fill Your Toybox At Home : Raven Shadowborne
• Caring For Your Toys: Raven Shadowborne
• Knives: Knyghtflyher *
• Adult Sex Toys: Dr. Robert W. Birch PhD

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Learning The Lifestyle

• Learning The Lifestyle: Raven Shadowborne
• Safe, Sane Consensual: Raven Shadowborne *
• BDSM FAQ (soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm FAQ)
• BDSM Tip Sheet For Beginners: Jay Wiseman
• Finding Your Place In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Bringing D/s Into An Existing Relationship: Raven Shadowborne *
• Play Tips For Beginners: Raven Shadowborne *
• Personal Changes In BDSM: Aylissa Cair 
• To Thine Own Self Be True: boo{SL} *
• What is D/s: Raven Shadowborne *
• Dealing With Emotions: miria_hunter
• Trust, The Foundation: miria_hunter *
• Dominance and Submission Rules: James Bryant
• Fantasy vs. Reality: Justin Medlin *
• A Fragile Balance: Reality, Fantasy and SM: Bob Harris *
• Communication & Surviving Everyday Life: Bob Harris
• The Three R's Of BDSM: Bob Harris *
• To Sir Or Not To Sir: Bob Harris *
• Needs vs. Wants: Knyghtflyher *
• Fish or Cut Bait: Knyghtflyher *
• What To Do When The New Wears Off: Knyghtflyher *
• You Can Dress Up, But Can You Be Seen In Public?: Miss Kat
• In The Beginning There Was A Fantasy: Miss Kat
• About Dominance & Submission: Zen
• The Owners Manual (Opens in new window)
• Slavese And Other Crap: Jack Rinella *
• DeSade's Not Into The Leather Scene: Jack Rinella
• Overcoming Fear: Jack Rinella
• Sex Or Sickness?: J. Mikael Togneri * (updated 5/17/03)
• Absolute Lifestyle D/s: J. Mikael Togneri *
• Who's In Charge?: MstrCerebus *
• Going Deep: Topspace, Bottomspace, and Sado-erotic Ecstacy: Chris M * (10 pages linked together)
• Joys We Encounter In SM: Chris M (Part Three Of Going Deep)
• The Power Of A Slogan: Screamer * (Essay re: Power Exchange)
• Origin Of RACK; RACK vs SSC: Gary Switch *
• BDSM and a Vanilla Partner: Nala *
• Surrendering the Safeword: yielding *
• Early Influences For What We Do: The View From The Dragon's Lair: Dragon~Lord *
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: Power Exchange: Dragon~Lord *
• A Beginner's Guide To Munches: Stu *
• What is Fetishism?: Mistress Michelle *
• Our Absolute Lifestyle: Master Eso *
• Defining Absolute and Total Power Exchange: Master Eso*
• Honorifics, Titles and Respect: Master Eso *
• Consent With Awareness: Master Eso *
• Knights Vs. Gods: Master Eso *
• Pain For Pleasure: A Learning Experience: Fire-Soul *
• Fetishism: To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3xL *
• Help, My Partner Has A Fetish: 3xL *
• Fetish Party FAQ: 3xL *

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Legal Issues

• Improving The Legal Standing Of Non-Traditional Relationships: Jay Wiseman

Limits

• Establishing Limits: Going Full Circle: Miria Hunter
• Limits: Skorpio

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Negotiation

• Premeeting Checklist: Raven Shadowborne *
• Play List: Electric Switch Of The West
• Scene Negotiation Form: Electric Switch Of The West
• Negotiation: Raven Shadowborne
• Negotiating a 24/7 Relationship: Raven Shadowborne
• What Is A Scene and What Is Negotiation?: Johnson Gray *

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Online To Real Life

• Premeeting Checklist: Raven Shadowborne *
• Meeting People From Online In Real Life: Raven Shadowborne *
• I've Found A Partner!: Raven Shadowborne *
• General Guidelines For Meeting People From Online: Raven Shadowborne *
• Dangers Of Meeting In Real Life (For dominants, submissives, slaves and bottoms): Raven Shadowborne *
• Scening On A First Meeting (Casual Scening): Raven Shadowborne *
• Safe Calls and Safewords: Raven Shadowborne *
• What Are Red Flags?: Raven Shadowborne *
• A Fragile Balance: Too Much Of A Good Thing: Bob Harris © *
• Some Notes On Safety For Meeting Online and Off: Ambrosio *
• A Beginner's Guide To Munches: Stu *
• TMI: JT Langdon

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Philosophy Issues

• Censorship In The Lifestyle: Raven Shadowborne
• Safe, Sane Consensual: Raven Shadowborne *
• Self Esteem and BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Fear In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• BDSM Overload: Raven Shadowborne
• Trust In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Rebellion: Raven Shadowborne
• Three Views Of Consent: Raven Shadowborne 
• Ethics In BDSM: Salon Kitty
• Labels: LadyFlame
• Aftercare: Jersey Girl
• Violence In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Trust, The Foundation: miria_hunter *
• Your Kink-My Kink?: miria_hunter
• SSC vs. RACK: Justin Medlin *
• Old Guard, New Guard: Joseph Stanley
• The Three R's Of BDSM: Bob Harris *
• To Sir Or Not To Sir: Bob Harris *
• Whose Way Is Right, and Who Cares Anyway?: Bob Harris
• Needs vs. Wants: Knyghtflyher *
• Fish or Cut Bait: Knyghtflyher *
• The Elegance Of BDSM: Lady Beth
• Aftercare: Chris M.
• A Modern Application Of Old Guard Philosophy: missyinchains
• Leather Ethics: Civiltiy & Incivility In The Scene: ChrisM *
• 2+2=?? : Justin Medlin
• Slavese And Other Crap: Jack Rinella *
• Superficial, Shallow and Condemnatory: J. Mikael Togneri *
• In His Interest: J. Mikael Togneri *
• Absolute Misunderstanding: J. Mikael Togneri
• Aftercare: Jersey Girl
• Understanding Equality: MstrCerebus
• Who's In Charge?: MstrCerebus *
• Going Deep: Topspace, Bottomspace, and Sado-erotic Ecstacy: Chris M * (10 pages linked together)
• Spiritual Dimension Of SM (Part One Of Going Deep) Chris M
• Screamer Rant: Real and True and Their Misplacement In BDSM: Screamer *
• The Power Of A Slogan: Screamer * (Essay re: Power Exchange)
• Origin Of RACK; RACK vs SSC: Gary Switch *
• BDSM According To Nala: Nala *
• To Share Or Not To Share?: Rowan Ste. Julian
• Surrendering the Safeword: yielding *
• Early Influences For What We Do: The View From The Dragon's Lair: Dragon~Lord *
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: Power Exchange: Dragon~Lord *
• Trust-Abuse Issues: How They Affect Your S/M Play: Lord Saber (this link opens in the Abuse Section of this site)
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: No Pain No Gain: Dragon~Lord

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Punishment & Discipline

• Punishment In BDSM : Raven Shadowborne
• Tick Lists: Raven Shadowborne
• Reward and Punishment: James Bryant
• Spare The Rod, Spoil The Slave: Jack Rinella
• Punishment: MstrCerebus
• Transgression, Transcendence and The Edge: Chris M (Part Six of Going Deep)
• On Being Punished: yielding
• Reactance Stages and Slave Space: yielding *
• Punishment: A View From The Dragon's Lair: Dragon~Lord

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Relationships

• What is D/s: Raven Shadowborne *
• Living D/s With Children in The Home: Raven Shadowborne
• Is Poly The Only Way?: Raven Shadowborne
• Play Partners: Raven Shadowborne
• Types Of Relationships In BDSM: Raven Shadowborne
• Bringing D/s Into An Existing Relationship: Raven Shadowborne *
• D/s Families: Mistress Steel 
• Sometimes: Screamer 
• What To Do When The New Wears Off: Knyghtflyher *
• Reality Check: Knyghtflyher *
• BDSM Relationship: Skorpio
• Swinging: jahna
• 22 Guaranteed Ways To Destroy A Relationship: Dr. Robert W. Birch PhD *
• TPE: Total Power Exchange: Ashtarot *
• BDSM and a Vanilla Partner: Nala *
• The Art Of Polyamory: Michael Krause
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: Power Exchange: Dragon~Lord *
• Mentors: Good or Bad?: Lord Saber
• Signs Of A Healthy Relationship: gentle^spirit

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Safety And Health

• Safe Words: Raven Shadowborne
• Caring for Your Leather Items: Raven Shadowborne *
• Health and Safety Issues of Alternative Sexual Activities : ntalia
• Emergency First Aid For S/M Practitioners: Jay Wiseman
• The Phisiology Of Alcohol Enemas: Jay Wiseman *
• Safe Calls and Safewords: Raven Shadowborne *
• Safewords: To Red Or Not To Red: miria hunter
• Cumulative Brain Damage From Breath Control?: Jay Wiseman *
• BDSM For Those With Disabilities: Raven Shadowborne *
• Medical Realities Of Breath Control: Jay Wiseman *
• Safety 101: The Screamer 
• Kink First Aid: Burns: Mistress Lisa
• Melanoma Dangers in S/M Play: Jay Wiseman 
• BDSM & Disabilities: Ryn Gibbs
• Safewords: Justin Medlin
• Pregnancy & BDSM: Power Erotics/ Hans Meijer
• Shaving: Jenne *
• Pregnancy & Bondage: Autumn
• STD's: nitengale
• Leather Ethics: Civilti & Incivility In The Scene: ChrisM *
• Kegel Exercises: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *
• Vaginismus and Sexual Pain: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *
• Submissive Esteem: MstrCerebus   *
• Meeting Someone Else Into BDSM: Ambrosio *
• Some Notes On Safety For Meeting Online and Off: Ambrosio *
• Surrendering the Safeword: yielding *
• Pace Yourself: Lord Saber *
• Sexually Transmitted Diseases: gentle^spirit
• Emergency Training For SM Practitioners: Jay Wiseman
• Safewords and Slavery: Master Eso *
• My Cutting Isn't Scarring Enough!: Dr. Beth Brown *

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Sex & Sexuality

• Anal Sex, Some Basic Guidelines: Johnson Gray
• The G-Spot: Society for Human Sexuality
• What Is Fisting: Johnson Gray *
• Sex & BDSM: Skorpio
• Erectile Dysfunction: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D.
• Female Sexual Self-esteem: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *
• Sexual Fantasies: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D.
• Sexuality Out Of Sync: Concerns With Levels Of Desire: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D.
• The G-Spot: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D.
• Kegel Exercises: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *
• Vaginismus and Sexual Pain: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *
• Which Way Do You Go?: Jack Rinella
• Sex Or Sickness?: J. Mikael Togneri * (updated 5/17/03)
• What is Fetishism?: Mistress Michelle *

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Sexual Orientation

• The Collapse of Sex and Gender, And the Emergence of the Transgender: fae
• Pansexual..The One True Way?: Justin Medlin
• Female Sexual Self-esteem: Dr. Robert W. Birch Ph.D. *

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Symbols In BDSM (includes collars and rituals)

• What is a collar?: Raven Shadowborne
• Formal Or Slave Collar: Mistress Steel 
• Training Collar: Mistress Steel
• The Collar: Lorraine Casey 
• Rituals: Raven Shadowborne
• Collar Of Consideration: Mistress Steel
• Symbols Of Alternative Lifestyles (link opens in new browser)
• Collaring: MastersKat
• Ritual: Chris M (Part Seven Of Going Deep)
• Ms Siren and boy john's Collaring Ceremony: Ms Siren * (real life)

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Types Of Play

• Types Of Play I: Floggers: Raven Shadowborne *
• Type Of Play 2: Paddles, Crops, and Straps: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play III: Spanking: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play 4: Ointments, Oils, Jellies: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play V: Clamps: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play VI: Plugs, Dildos, & Vibrators: Raven Shadowborne *
• Types Of Play 7: Wax Play Tips: Raven Shadowborne *
• Sensual Caning: Conrad Hodson
• Humiliation: Marianne (AKA BoundLady)
• The Phisiology Of Alcohol Enemas: Jay Wiseman *
• What Is Pain Play?: Raven Shadowborne
• Why Do People Enjoy Pain Play? : Raven Shadowborne
• Begging: Raven Shadowborne
• Play Tips For Beginners: Raven Shadowborne *
• Play List: Author Electric Switch Of The West*
• Shadow Play: Lady Celeste 
• Figging: The Art Of Ginger Root Play: Master Michael
• Sub-space And Dissociation: Master Yves
• Bondage: James Bryant
• What is body piercing? What is "C&B" play, or "genitorture"?: Johnson Gray *
• What Is Fisting: Johnson Gray *
• Sub-space; Others Can Do It, Why Can't I?: Bob Harris
• Knives: Knyghtflyher *
• Ageplay: Truths and Myths: missyinchains
• Mummification: Jack Rinella
• Matt Nicholson's Breast Punishment Primer: Matt Nicholson (Updated to link to the new eBook version)
• Sweet Shame: Humbling, psychological and verbal domination: ChrisM (total of 3 pages linked together)
• The Wicked Art Of Tickle Torture: Chris M
• Bodyplay And The Spirit: Chris M (Part Five of Going Deep)
• Basics Of Flogging or How To Flog Someone So They'll Come Back For More: Keith L. Kendrick
• Humiliation: Kim (This link will open in a new window)
• The View From The Dragon's Lair: Age Play: Dragon~Lord
• Needle Play 101: Elianne *
• Silent Rules Of Bondage: Mistress Michelle
• Playing With Blood: Rose Vergara *
• Electricity Play: Lord Saber *
• Top Space/Bottom Space: Lord Saber
• Top Space 2: Lord Saber
• Pace Yourself: Lord Saber *
• Silent Rules Of Bondage: Mistress Michelle Peters
• What Is Fetishism?: Mistress Michelle Peters
• Introduction To Latex: 3xL
• Fetishism: To Tell Or Not To Tell: 3xL *
• Help, My Partner Has A Fetish: 3xL *
• Fetish Party FAQ: 3xL *
• My Cutting Isn't Scarring Enough!: Dr. Beth Brown *
• Caning and Rods- Styles: Lady Hugs
• Caning and Rods-The Art Of Caning: Lady Hugs
• A Captive Heart: Bastinado, The Art Of Foot Torture: simoriah

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Why BDSM?

• Sex or Sickness?: J. Mikael Togneri (updated 5/17/03)
• Why Would Anyone Participate in Sadomasochism (S/M)? Or S/M Isn't What It Used to Be: Keith L. Kendrick
• Why BDSM: Aylissa Cair 
• Psychological Dimensions of Masochistic Surrender: Dorothy Hayden CSW, CAC
• Early Influences For What We Do: The View From The Dragon's Lair: Dragon~Lord *
• From A Dom's Perspective: Hard-Wiring: Dragon~Lord

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