Author: Mistress Steel ©
|The Training Collar represents
the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive. For information
regarding the first collar please refer to my article called the Collar
of Consideration. The 'Training' collar is offered by the Dominant
after they have engaged in a period of time where they have held extensive
conversations with the submissive and explored characteristics, traits,
interests, desires and lifestyles to see if they consider themselves to
be a good match in enough areas to move into a relationship
of deeper commitment. They will generally have engaged in many of the
vanilla aspects of the relationship as well as commenced with some light
sceneing to explore the beginning limits that the submissive may possess.
The traditional Training collar is often made of leather. It is generally very plain and may be either red or black. Many Dominants alternatively offer a training collar in chain. This is based on personal preference, requirements dictated by issue's in the submissives life and other factors shared between the Dominant and the submissive. The acceptance of this collar by the submissive indicates that the submissive agrees to pursue a much deeper relationship with the Dominant which will involve or may, serious feelings, emotions, commitments and responsibilities. It can be equated fairly well to an engagement ring. When a relationship reaches the stage where a Training Collar is offered it tells other Dominant's and submissives that the Dominant and submissive have grown much more serious and that they are actively bonding and attaching to each other with considerations of a potentially long term full time relationship. At this point the actions of the submissive are reflected upon the Dominant and the submissive should become acutely aware that behaving in a manner becoming to the training of their Dominant is a reflection of their personal devotion and commitment to that Dominant.
When a Dominant reaches this stage with a submissive
they will often move into areas of training and discipline which are
much more severe and strict. The foundations of later interactions are
often based on how well the Dominant and the submissive construct or
shape their relationship at this stage. Both recognize that they are
a reflection of each other or openly connected to each other and will
actively work to make that representation solid and deep. Most Dominant's
and submissives enter deeper emotional stages at this point and may
begin to express true devotion, love, honor and mutual respect. In many
ways this is where the relationship is truly tested physically, mentally
Each of the collars is generally presented during some type of formal ceremony. Often the 'Collar of Consideration' and the 'Training Collar' may be presented privately or during a small gathering of close friends. The actions of collaring are considered quite serious and most often great care is taken to make the moments memorable for both people. Many Dominant's and submissive exchange vows or poems they have created during such ceremonial occasions.