The following is a playlist for determining the basic kink-compatibility.
It is not meant to be exhaustive. It is useful in focusing discussions
of D/s play.
Activities are organized by some sort of vague categories. But, as with
most everything, you might categorize some items very differently.
However, organizing activities in some way allows
the Dom to get some idea of whether the sub's interests are primarily
sexual, obedience, masochistic etc.
I also make it clear to the sub that not everything on the list is something
I like or expect. I personally do not give the sub my list. This is a
personal preference of mine. I want to see what
the sub likes, absent my input. I assume that this will start to shift
once he or she knows what I like. But I want the raw data first.
A. Indicate for each item how you FEEL about that activity by
rating it on a scale of 0 to 5 or if you choose you may put NO.
NO means that you will NOT do that item under any circumstances.
0-means you LOATHE that activity and you may even be appalled
at it --but you are willing to try
it at least a little to please the Dominant.
1-means you don't care --and you'll do it.
2-means it's pleasurable or fun, not real hot.
3-means you're curious about it, not sure how you'll respond.
4-means you love it, you get hot thinking of it.
5-means the activity is a wild turn-on, you're
frantic to try it or do it more
B. Indicate for each item whether you have actual experience with
C. Unless otherwise specified, it is assume that the activity WILL
BE DONE *TO* YOU
How I Feel About It
YES OR NO
Anal penetration (doing)
Cock worship (doing)
Double penetration (oral/anal)
Eating/drinking cum (others')
Eating/drinking cum (own)
Favorite Position or Positions
Degree of immobility or helplessness enjoyed [circle one]
How I FEEL
YES or NO
Intricate rope bondage
Strapping - full body
Corsets (on others)
Forced x dressing
High heel wearing
High heel worship
Latex, on others
Rubber on others
Leather on others
Eating/drinking own waste
other Water Sports
INTENSE SENSATION (Aka PAIN)
Some of these items are listed elsewhere when done for effect, and not
Clip and Clamps
Cock & Ball torture
Needles (Play piercing)
(depending on intensity)
Spanking (over knee)
Whipping (single tail)
Other pain (Specify)
Branding, not for pain but
for marking -- NO HICKIES)
Chosen, clothing for
Chosen, food for
Chosen, toys for
collared, x dressed)
(Please go over what this
means to you before trying it with me.)
Humiliation in private
Humiliation in public
Massage - getting
Massage - giving
Plaster casting genitals
Serving as ashtray
Serving as furniture
Serving as a maid
Serving as a pony
Shaving <whole body>
Soap in mouth
****** NO!!!!! to punching ,kicking or face slapping******
For you, the turn on of D/s is: [pick 3 and rate 1 the most important]:
Aural (sound) _____
What positions have the highest erotic value for you, unless specified,
positions are not bound [rate as many as you like]
Standing bondage ____
Lying on back ____
Lying face down ____
Hands & Knees ____
What toys have the highest erotic value for you
[1=some interest; 2=pretty exciting; 3=very erotic]
Electrical toys ____
Leather Restraints ____
Nipple clamps ____
Harnesses & Slings _____
What parts of your body are the most erotically sensitive?
[list them by sensitivity)
puss (labia, vagina) ____
ears and neck ________
feet & legs ________
What parts of your Dom's body would you most like to pleasure:
What do you wish your dominant to teach you?