Ten Basic BDSM Principles:
1) BDSM play should be safe, sane and consensual.
2) Know your SM player(s). Do not have BDSM play with strangers.
3) Always inform a friend that you are having BDSM play: where, when and
4) Always use safe words, i.e., 911 or red (STOP), yellow (slow down)
and/or safe gestures (tap foot three times).
5) Negotiate the scene before you start. Communicate your limits, medical
conditions, medications, experience and desires.
6) "No limits" is fantasy. Every sane player has limits. Do
not be embarrassed to express them to the dominant player(s).
7) Do not have BDSM play while intoxicated or seriously stoned.
8) Expect the unexpected (fire, power failure, medical emergency, etc.)
and be prepared. Another man’s life is in your hands.
9) Always have a first aid kit nearby.
10) Don’t play with a woman/man unless you feel absolutely safe!
Ten Basic Temporary Piercing Principles:
1) Do not attempt to temporarily pierce a person without proper training
Also, have everything you need set up BEFORE you start. Once you are sterile
and gloved, and your bottom flying on endorphines, you do not want to
have to stop the scene because you just realized you were out of something
or can't find something. Hypodermic needles can be purchased online or
at Veterinarian supply stores. I do not recommend the latter, as those
needles are made to go through hide and are less sharp.
2) The piercer(s) should always wear latex or vinyl exam gloves and change
them frequently. Always wear new gloves for each person pierced in a group
scene to avoid cross-infection. Some have latex allergies. Vinyl gloves
are more expensive, but have excellent quality without the powdery gunk.
Be safe, double-glove. Learn how to remove the gloves without touching
the bloodied outside of the gloves. Blood bourne pathogens are numerous
and will result in discomfort at best, death at worst. Remember: You are
most likely to contaminate the Top, the bottom is giving blood, not receiving
3) Use antibacterial soap to prepare the skin before play, and use antiseptics
immediately before and after piercing. Wash yoru hands for as long as
it takes to sing Happy Birthday.
4) Always use brand new sterile needles, usually 18-25 gauge, one inch
or longer is recommended. I'd go with 1.5 inches if you are doing 22 gauge.
For beginners, 22 gauge is a good start. 18 gets to be quite alot larger.
5) All the bio-hazardous waste (needles, gloves, swabs or alcohol preps)
should be disposed of in a biohazard container.
6) Prep the area to be pierced with alcohol and (clear) betadine or Iodine.
Remove the iodine with iodine removal pads. Make sure the "victim"
is comfortable and ready. I would recommend telling the bottom to take
a deep breath right before inserting the needle, and then slowly releasing
it as you pierce through.
7) The needle should travel just underneath the surface (the subcutaneous
layers) of ordinary skin, to emerge through the skin a short distance
from where it was inserted. Be cautious of shallow piercings if they are
intended to stay in. They can easily be ripped out and tear the skin.
8) Don't pierce wrists, hands, internal organs, bones, eyes or the spine.
Avoid the armpit, sternum and areas with many veins.
9) Check-in with the masochist often. Is she/he faint, going pale or shaking?
These are common reactions to the flood of hormones and neurotransmitters
circulating throughout the body. Have water, a first aid kit and blankets
nearby. Never pierce somebody alone. If you both pass out, what then?
10) Aspirin and alcohol enhances bleeding and should be avoided if blood
flow is not desired
11) You can glue feathers to your hypodermic needles inside the plastic
cap on top if you wish to make pretty patterns, such as angel wings, eagle
wings etc. Negotiate the patterns and number of needles ahead of time.
You need after care for:
Scenes that are demanding and intense
Scenes that involve new partners or new techniques
Scenes that involve punishment, humiliation, or intimations of nonconsensual
Scenes that result in tears, screams, orgasm, or emotional release
Scenes that have been interrupted by an accident, injury, fainting, or
unseemly act of God
Scenes that have "gone bad", resulting in anger, or upset, or
ending with a safe word (both top and bottom may well need/appreciate
some reassurance if this happens)
Aftercare for needle-play should include monitoring the bottom for signs
of shock, emotional reactions etc. Some times reactions set in long after
the needle-play itself is over. Sometimes after-care can repair a scene
gone wrong, or help both parties process their feelings about what just
occurred. Do not use this time to negotiate, just be there with each other
and come down from the high. The bonding that happens during after-care
can open up more closeness and trust to allow your BDSM relationship to
deepen and feel meaningful on a spiritual level as well.