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Every Master has different needs, wants and or desires. Here is where
your focus needs to be. If you want to be the perfect pet, paying attention
is your first step. Sometimes in life its the little touches that tell
someone you care. If you stop for a moment and consider why you got into
this life, it was probably to feel that complete connection to another
human being. For most of us the kinky sex is just a bonus!!! Seriously,
you can't be a slave unless you WANT to serve. Some refer to it as a burning
in the belly. Back to paying attention though. Each Master is different
and their needs are as diverse as the colors of a rainbow. As he talks,
you learn. Doesn't that sound simple? Listen as the past is told, what
things (note that we are addressing things here) were important. Is there
a hint of what things are still important? How about the things he abhors?
When he says that his last slave always forgot to have his favorite cereal
in the house your "i love to serve" alarm should be ringing!
How about when he says he is doing laundry because he can't stand towels
unless they are big and fluffy and all of his are dirty. (Yes, girls,
your alarm should be ringing) In passing, he tells you of a lighter that
once was a favorite and he has not been able to find another one just
like it. Your next move is to find out what was so special about that
lighter so that if you ever see one, you have found the perfect gift.
Now lets talk about how we can serve this Master. Never, never, never,
run out of Wheaties or fluffy towels. Sound too easy? Every time I reach
and find a big fluffy towel I know my slave is caring for my needs. Late
at night when I am working, she brings me a bowl of Wheaties. Has my slave
moved heaven and earth to get them for me? No, of course not, but she
cares enough to make sure I never have to do without. If I reach someday
and the towel isn't there I know she has begun to take my needs for granted.
Each Master shares their desires and need in different ways. In my home
there is an hour set aside each day for just talking to my slave (we go
way over that). We just discuss our life, our love for each other and
snuggle. This time is not rife with structure it is our time to plan and
dream and hope. We can share information and discuss our progress toward
our goals. When I tell her what we are planning to do, she knows what
things she must accomplish to make us successful. This gives her a chance
in a loving environment to express and concerns she is carrying. We have
on several occasions used this time to add to or modify our contract.
There are many issues that have come up in our life together that were
not covered in our contract or discussions when we entered into our relationship.
Keep in mind that life is like that, it throws you a curve now and again.
If you have a strong relationship those curves can be dealt with and put
to rest before the harm is irreparable.
A good slave has to think about her shape and appearance. A Master should
know without question that his slave is taking good care of his property.
She should care for herself in a way that she will last a long time (haven't
met a slave yet that came with a descent warranty). She should not abuse
his other property, caring not to break a dish or plate, making sure his
car has oil, his clothes are clean, his home is clean and on and on. When
she cares for herself and her Master she should make sure each gets a
proper diet and exercise. Just because he loves biscuits and gravy doesn't
mean he should eat it everyday. Being overweight or underweight are both
harmful in the long run. So care must be taken to provide healthy meals
and a healthy environment. He may fight you on making doctors appointments
for him but it is necessary. Make one for yourself also! You can't care
for a Master properly if you are not healthy and he sure can't care for
you.
Support his dreams. This doesn't mean you have to go along with every
harebrained idea that comes to the surface. If he wants to go back to
school and finish his education, how can you make that happen for him?
If he wants to move to Fiji and sell hot dogs from a cart on the beach,
be gentle. Ask questions. Maybe he will see this isn't the best idea to
come down the path if you just ask the right questions. How much do hot
dogs cost in Fiji? Is business seasonal and if so what do we do in the
off-season? What is the cost of living in Fiji? Do we need a hot dog vendor
license? How many hot vendors currently live in Fiji and what is their
average annual income? In the end what do you do if he still wants to
sell hot dogs in Fiji? That is up to you and the strength of your relationship.
Please send us a postcard and let us know how it goes.
Surprise him. Most
Masters will tell you that they don't like surprises. Those feelings usually
stem from past bad experiences. Start small with a surprise. A back rub
with a special oil you found that doesn't leave him smelling like a French
whore. How about making his favorite meal on a weeknight and put a few
candles on the table too. Turn off the phones when his favorite team is
playing so he can watch the game uninterrupted. If it is his birthday,
don't send strippers to his work. That is the type of surprise that Masters
are generally not fond of! Do take him out some Friday night and buy him
a lap dance or two at a strip club. Seems like a fine line there, but
just use some common sense.
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