Topping
From The Bottom Is Not That Bad!
Author: D. S. Gray (Sadique) © 1999 |
This is a most interesting
topic and I trust that these words will add fuel to the fires of thought.
I do not, as a dom., believe that "topping from the bottom" is negative
- it may be, very well might be, often may be - but it must be considered
as a signal of something deeper, whether it be a cry for help or a struggle
for control. In either case it is a call for attention and that
is what the dominant must address. The great difficulty is
determining the difference and that is what I will turn my attention towards.
From my own experience, I believe that in most, but not
all cases, it is a As I stated, I do not believe that it is positive, neither will I accept that it is negative, it is and it is what is called, in the scientific community, a marker. It would be best for all that it is assessed, addressed and recognized for what it truly is within the context of the relationship. Personally, I have found it to be most constructive, most informative, but I accept that there will be considerable disagreement on this. What I see as useful many will be seen as an irritation, an affront, but it need not be that, "topping from the bottom" can be a most useful tool to defuse a polarity that both parties may grow from.if they choose to do so. |
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